I have been thinking a lot about African, global, societal norms, tradition and culture surrounding love, marriage and babies over the last year. There has been a surge in weddings and births in my social circles around the world. Many of them, particularly the women, have posted testimonials about their experiences. They have also shared interesting articles about these major life milestones too. I have been amazed, entertained, shocked, not surprised, disheartened and encouraged by the conversations that have percolated, over-boiled and simmered perfectly around these issues. I have found that for the educated, progressive, exposed and or well-travelled of female sex, navigating love, marriage and babies in the current milieu is a minefield. The current global trend of gender equality would have us believe that all is righted in the world. The reality is that things are only starting to shift. Even if your partner at home is understanding, earthlings in general are not. Many still think these "new" ways, ideas, interpretations and positions are alien. There are a lot of people on both ends freaking out, and the backlash and fighting is fierce.
Let me state clearly that gender equality and equity is ultimately about choice. Allowing for a spectrum. If you believe in traditional roles, good for you, work with that. I do not negate your views in choosing to want different, or for feeling that certain ways, beliefs and maxims are derogatory and subjugating. The point is to agree to disagree and to create space for individual decisions for our collective well-being as humanity. That means going beyond tolerance, but actively allowing expression through manifested understanding, catalysed by validating different ways to do, be and act. That being said, I have been traumatised by quite an ugly shift in local and global contexts, as patriarchy fights back in reaction to feminist movements gaining new fervour, backing and efficacy. I have also had very interesting conversations about gender, sexuality, identity, self expression, tradition, modernity and culture that I would like to ponder a little more. This has mostly happened on Twitter, so I would like to delve deeper into these issues in a way that 140 characters disallows. I need an unlimited canvas to use my paintbrush to paint more detailed portraits.
|This is a section of the walls inside|
a popular Accra Night club, from the
high ceilings to the floor. So beautiful!
Woolgather Wednesday will feature ruminations and illuminations through my Love. Sex. Marriage. Babies. series.
Twit Tuesday will be a hodgepodge of profound nonsense that I have tweeted about that I would like to expound on.
It's going to be awesome possum. I know I'm going to have oodles and poodles of fun doing this. So this Dorothy is taking that tornado out of Kansas and I can't wait to see what lies somewhere over the rainbow...
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